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I'm Steffy, and I live in my favorite place on earth, Long Beach NY with my two loves & our dachshund. In this space we share our adventures around NY, cozy days at home and tons of outfits! Grab a cup of coffee and lets get to know each other!

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Monday, April 24, 2017

Not Without My Coffee.


This tee is the damn truth... and not without my wine either! ;) I seriously have not taken it off since it showed up in an adorable pink package from bando. Here's some snaps from a morning boardwalk stroll with my two dudes.

Also, this cardigan is on super sale! I linked this entire outfit below.









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Friday, April 21, 2017

Upstate NY Adventures in Thrifting // Outfit

Thanks to Zappos.com and Rockport for sponsoring this post! 

It's probably not surprising to you guys that I spend my time off hunting for treasures in upstate NY (Mystery Spot antiques is worth your time!) What may come as a shock to you, though, is that I packed so light that I only brought one pair of shoes for the adventure - these super cute and comfortable Rockport sandals from Zappos.com that I was so excited to style. I am getting really good at being a pick-up-and-go, re-wear the same pants for days kind of person. If you've followed me through the years, I'm sure you can understand why I'm so proud of this accomplishment!

We spent this day in Phoenicia, walking around the town and eating at our favorite diner in all of NY. It's fun to explore all of the small towns of upstate NY, and it's even more fun to be comfortable while doing so. I can't say enough good things about these Rockport's, but the best part is that I never had to break them in. They were comfortable from the start! Also, I was able to order them in a pinch before the weekend, because as always Zappos.com has fast and free shipping! Tons more upstate adventures to come...







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Wednesday, April 19, 2017

8 Swimsuits In My Shopping Cart


1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8

As the temps rise above 60 degrees, I can't help but daydream about the beach days that are right around the corner! Last summer I was in all maternity swimsuits, so I can't wait to wear some cute new suits to the beach! Here's a few of my favorites from around the web... 



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Monday, April 17, 2017

The Best Shoes // An Outfit!


I know that I'm constantly tooting Sezane's horn, but GUYS. These shoes are my dream shoes. They're the perfect heel height, and my favorite mustard yellow color. I am so so smitten!

I found this amazing suede pinafore dress in a vintage shop near Joshua Tree, and I've never seen anything like it before! It's one of my favorite items in my closet, and makes me feel like a 70's dream! I linked the shoes & the bag below!








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Thursday, April 13, 2017

VIDEO: A Joshua Tree & Palm Springs Video Diary!

We've been working on getting this video diary of our roadtrip up as quickly as we could, and here it is! It's so fun to share a bit of our little life with you! Enjoy! :)

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Wednesday, April 12, 2017

An Outfit In Brooklyn


Lately I've been gravitating toward wearing my hair up, because A. it's way quicker and B. it's falling out, so this is a fun way to cover that up. Also, Hudson always pulls on it now!

Most days I throw on denim and a tee, so it felt good to plan out this look and feel sort of like my "old self." Some of these items are older, but I linked similar ones below!




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Monday, April 10, 2017

Hudson's 5 Month Update + Unpublished Photos!


I was dreading this month (as you read in this post) but it inevitably came, and now I am here learning how to be a new kind of mom - a working mom. I am still trying to figure out how to juggle it all, mostly by sneaking in work when Hudson is sleeping at night so I can not stress in the mornings or evenings when he is awake and ready to play. I have the privilege of working from home some days, but I still feel like I don't get enough time in with him. Let's see how my second week feels...

I've been trying to find more things to do with Hudson this month, because I feel like he's more mentally developed and needs to be entertained and challenged constantly. I am going to try to find swim lessons for babies & look into mommy and me type classes! I'd love to hear suggestions for other things to get us into!

BABY UPDATE: This month, I think Hudson developmentally changed the most. He is now a PERSON, not just a little cute thing that we stare at. He does things, he has a blossoming personality and he's fun to hangout with! We went away to California on our roadtrip for 1 week, and something in that week made him way way smarter! When we came home, he used all of his toys differently. He just knew how to bounce in his Jumperoo, and he was more okay with playing alone and entertaining himself in small stretches. 

He started making noise while sticking his tongue out which is so cute. He also started to roll over from back to tummy, which was not fun for his sleep at all. He 100% had a sleep regression because of this, and we had to re-sleep train him. He still goes to bed at 7:30PM and always sleeps 11 hours through the night now to 7AM. 

This month he's also way more bonded with his daddy. He of course wants me when he's crying or in a mood, but I'm like this lame-o who is always there, but when daddy walks in the room he lights up and wiggles all around. It's so cute. Last thing - this month he noticed Claude! He stares at her all day as she throws her toys around and jumps around on the couch. He also grabs at her and tries to pet her!



MAMA UPDATE: I mostly feel like a way more stressed & overwhelmed version of myself. It's like, if one area of my life is thriving, the other is falling behind. On weeks where I feel like a good mama to Hudson, I notice that I haven't blogged at all, or that I've barely hungout with Matt. Now with my job back in the mixture, I barely have time to breathe. A glass of wine at dinner some nights is my sanity. :)

Also, I thought my hair would never fall out like everybody said, but now it is EVERYWHERE. I can't even brush it! Any recommendations??




These are the things we've been using most:


1. Jumperoo: Hudson has loved this toy all month! When I first got it he wasn't quite sure what to do with it, but throughout the month he has been learning how to use his legs, to bounce and the toys keep him so preoccupied!

2. Wireless Camera: After much consideration, we decided to install a Wifi camera. This allows me to workout down the hall where our other monitor's signal wasn't working, and it also allows Matt to see Hudson when he travels for work. This one was so easy to setup, and we can view it on our phone! It even lets you move the camera through your phone, it's insane!

3. Shake and Sing Elephant: For $8, this toy does so much! He loves watching the light shine, and the ears twisting!

4. Spin Rattle: We wanted to find a rattle that was a little bit more in depth then the one we have and love (linked at 3 months) - this one is his new favorite!

5. Angelcare Bath Support: When we moved Hudson from the sink to the tub, this has made my life so much easier! I place him in it, and fill the water up only a tiny bit. He loves kicking around, and the material is gripping, so he doesn't slide!

6. Water Filled Teether: My poor baby has been teething so badly, so on nights when he seems bothered we hold this in his mouth after letting it sit in the refrigerator. It gives him some relief. 

7. Bumbo Seat: This Bumbo has helped him build back support! I try to place him in it during storytime in the morning, and he enjoys it!




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Friday, April 7, 2017

A Spring Day Outfit


Some of you mentioned that you do miss "outfit posts" so I am going to do my best to post at least one per week! It's actually finding the items to link below that is the most time consuming, because surprisingly I DO get dressed every single day. haha!

Anyway, I wore this on a walk to the park with Hudson to put him in the swing for the first time. It was a gorgeous 55 degree Spring day, and it made me so excited for all of the beautiful weather that's ahead of us! Everything is so much more fun with Hudson. It's crazy. Anyway, I am so excited to pull out my leather jacket in this weather! I have so many lighter coats that I've been waiting to wear! I linked the items to shop below!






Blouse is Primark, but you can't shop online. Here's the link anyway, and I've linked similar ones below!

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Wednesday, April 5, 2017

The day I returned to work after maternity leave was one of the worst days of my life.

This is the first picture ever taken of Hudson and I


I've been trying to write this post all week, just knowing that it will bring up all of the tears and the messy emotions that I am feeling. But I knew I had to write it, because there's too many moms or soon-to-be moms out there who can relate, stick together, help or just talk about it.

I grew up with a stay at home mom. I used to look at her, when I was old enough to realize that she didn't work, and pity her. She always made it seem like she missed out on something. She had me at 23, and never quite figured out what she wanted to do in life, and that made me feel deep sorrow for her. I always looked at her and told myself that will never be me, I want to BE SOMEONE and have a purpose in life other than being a mom.


The day that I met Hudson was by far the greatest day in my entire life. I know it's cliche, and I know that every mom says it, but what other day really could come close? A work promotion? A stellar meal at a five star restaurant? The day you got your dog? I mean these are all great, but they can't compare to meeting the tiny human that you created with your husband. It changed me at the fiber of my being. For the first 4.5 months I didn't spend more than 5 hours apart from him to attend a wedding, and I knew EVERY tiny detail about him - when he pooped last, what kind of poop it was, if he made a new face, if he noticed his feet for the first time. Everything. But in our beautiful symbiotic relationship I always felt a tinge of sadness knowing that my time was limited, and that the simplicity of waking up and solely having to care for him would end. Everyone would always ask me, "How are you feeling about going back to work??" or "How much time do you have left?" and I would answer matter-of-factly, but thinking in the back of my mind that the day was far away still, or it wouldn't actually ever come. I guess I was in denial.

At the one month mark I had a meltdown. I couldn't shake the sadness. I googled "Does the end of maternity leave bring on Postpartum Depression?" and read all kinds of articles about women who felt the same way as me. Some quit. Some went back but just lived with the sadness.


Then my day came. On my last day of leave, I wanted to do something special or different, and make it the kind of day that you remember forever, but it ended up just being another day in the string of them. I paused in the morning for a few minutes in his room, and tried to freeze the feeling of having nothing on my mind but my baby, and I remember putting him to sleep because I cried while I fed him his bottle and placed him in his crib, knowing I'd maybe never ever feel so connected with him in our entire lives together. The next morning my "new life" began. I walked Hudson into his daycare room that I [guiltily] knew he would remain in all day, and I left him there with almost complete strangers. As I walked out tons of nice strangers smiled nicely at me as I cried and said 'it gets easier with time.' I replayed the song Blues Run the Game all day and cried more than I ever have in my life. Dropping him has gotten easier, but I still cry every day, and I still feel, at the core of my being, that leaving my baby is wrong.

I decided after 29 years that I no longer pity my mom, I envy her.


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Palm Springs Outfits





As promised, here's some of the looks I wore during our time in Palm Springs! I packed all easy to throw on dresses & jumpsuits, and I thought they were all SO FUN and full of life! Some pieces are older, but I'll do my best to link similar items as best as I can! :)





I adore the sleeve detail on this one!






This AMAZING Jumpsuit is from Betty and Veronica by Rachel Antonoff. I felt like a million bucks in it! You can shop it HERE

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