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Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Our first month as parents

What a beautiful, tiring, overwhelming and incredible blur the past few weeks have been. Leaving the hospital with a baby felt really.. strange! Like, we knew that this boy grew inside of me, but the fact that he was now here and I was back to old Steffy made it all seem so surreal, like being pregnant never really happened.

The first few nights were tough. We were new at changing diapers so there were "poopsplosions" and we were getting peed on while we were half asleep in the middle of the night. We laughed, we groaned, we barely slept, we hugged and felt our relationship grow in an entirely new way. Apparently babies don't know the difference between day and night, so when we realized that sleeping all day was our bedtime nightmare, things started to get a little bit better.

By day three we had established a bedtime routine, and some ways to relieve eachother. Matt keeps Hudson awake while I take a nighttime 1-2 hour nap. When I wake up, we bathe him, change him and then I feed him, so by midnight we're all ready for bed. Getting that nap in before bed made nighttime feeds SO much better for me, and Hudson began to sleep in 3-4 hour stretches from being kept awake before bed. Matt has been incredible, and takes care of the night changes. Then in the morning, I change and feed Hudson and play with him so Matt can sleep in. This system works SO well for us, and has made the first few weeks much better. Luckily Matt took a few weeks off of work, and my parents were close by for the first 3 weeks.

As far as feeling hormonal, I felt off-balance the first few days but I feel fine now. On our 3rd day home our parents took Hudson for a walk so we could nap. I am not going to lie, I missed him so much in the hour he was away that I cried. I've looked at him a million times and cried. I cannot believe that we made him, that he is ours, that he is so perfect and sweet and innocent and that I get to watch him grow up and support him for his entire life. It has given my life a new purpose, but it also scares the shit out of me. I never realized how nervous I would feel - like I don't want him out of my eyeshot, and I check on him throughout the night just to see him move and breath. 

It has also been so inspiring seeing the kind of dad that Matt is. He helps me out so much, and seeing his face light up when Hudson is around makes me feel so warm inside. It really is an entirely new kind of love seeing this person who you've grown up with and spent life with then become the father to your child. Figuring it out together and acting like a team is really what has gotten us through these few weeks. 

Hudson is the sweetest baby. I know all babies are sweet, but the way that he looks at me when he rests his head on my shoulder just melts my heart. He recently discovered that he can hold onto my hair, and his eyes light up when he runs his fingers through it. It is the cutest thing ever. We also love holding a crinkle mirror in front of him and watching him see his own reflection. It's fascinating watching him discover the world around him. I hope he always finds things this magical.

I can't lie and say having a baby is all rainbows and unicorns, because it is not. There's been absolutely chaotic moments when there's poop on the wall and I'm covered in spit up, and I still haven't eaten or brushed my teeth. I was totally thrown for a loop - I am a planner, and the kind of person who can perpetually have too much on my plate and make it work. Motherhood is different. Something about having zero alone time and constantly having to care for this tiny person who loves you so much and needs you so much can zap your energy like nothing else! But I am soaking it in, all of it, the beautiful moments and the really tough ones too! I'll make sure to check-in and share how things are going over here periodically. Xo!

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Sunday, December 4, 2016

My Holiday Gift To Matt

This year Matt became a dad. In a lot of ways becoming a dad is much scarier than becoming a mom, because men don’t have 9 months of changing and growing into the role, they are somewhat thrown into it. It’s like one day their wife has a giant belly, and the next they have a baby that is half theirs! Sometimes the disconnect was frustrating for me when I was pregnant, but on the other hand, I feel for men. It’s hard to feel connected and attached to something you’ve never met, but the second Hudson entered the world, Matt stepped up to the plate and has been the most incredible dad. It has been amazing to watch him, and to see his instantaneous love for our baby. He was the one who learned how to change diapers and swaddle while I napped in the hospital, and then HE taught ME! He helps so much with nighttime changes, and is so involved in every step of the way.

Needless to say, I am so proud of him, and I wanted to make sure to get him the perfect gift this holiday season to show him how proud I am & how much I love him! I was so excited to be given the opportunity to gift him the HP Spectre x360, and to Reinvent Giving like the heartfelt brothers in this new video by HP . He travels a ton for work as a freelance camera assistant, and always wanted a smaller and more portable computer or tablet to bring along with him. The Spectre x360 is not only compact, but it has an awesome touch screen and it converts into a tablet! It’s perfect for use on long flights, or to bring along on jobs. Hudson and I are so excited to be able to support Matt in his work & travels with this gift, and cannot wait for him to start using it!

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This post was sponsored by HP, but all opinions are my own.

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Thursday, December 1, 2016

Cutting Our Own Xmas Tree

Last year we cut our own tree in upstate NY, but this year we wanted to find somewhere a bit closer to bring Hudson! We stumbled upon Mike's cut your own tree farm out East, and it was perfect for a day of festive Christmas decorating!

Hudson slept through the entire thing, but we'll make sure to show him the pictures as proof that he was there! We walked around until we found a perfect tree for us, and then Matt chopped it down. It's one of my favorite yearly traditions, and now our house smells SO good!

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Monday, November 28, 2016

Something Sweet for Someone Sweet ...

Dads are tough to get gifts for. My dad has pretty much everything - an entire closet full of enviable shoes, tons of Robert Graham button ups (which are his favorite, and were fool proof as a gift until he owned most of them) and every toy a guy could ever want from a boat to the vintage Chester O'chimp dolls he collects from ebay. Is your dad this hard to get gifts for?

This year I am extra thankful for him, because he and my mom rented a home down the street from us to be around after Hudson was born for an entire month. After feeling stumped over what to get him, I realized the one thing he will always love is chocolate! He's a sweets lover like me, and a nice box of chocolates could never fail!

Enter merci. merci chocolate is all about expressing heartfelt gratitude, and the adorable custom holiday inserts makes them even more fun to hand out to those you're thankful for, because you can customize them. You can also print a 'merci list' which allows you to checkoff those on your holiday gift list easily!

If you're looking to give someone sweet something sweet this holiday season, visit merci HERE.

*This post is in partnership with merci, but all opinions are my own! 
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Friday, November 25, 2016

My Top Black Friday Finds + Gift Guide

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I am not a huge fan of crowds, so i've been loving shopping all of these sales from my bed! Here's a few of my favorite promotions, and some of my top finds for less! Hope this helps you with some holiday shopping!

J.Crew: Everything is 40% off!

Boden: 30% off

Madewell: 25% off everything!

Urban Outfitters: buy 1 get 1 50% off!

Minted: 20% off Holiday Cards!

Wayfair: Up to 80% off

West Elm: Buy more, save more - up to 30% off

Happy Shopping!

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Wednesday, November 23, 2016

NYC Holiday Shopping With Hudson & Uber

Everything becomes more challenging to accomplish with a newborn. There's certain things I just know we'll have to skip this year, like visiting the tree in Rockefeller center because of the crowds, but I am feeling super accomplished after tackling some holiday shopping with Hudson in tow! It was his first time in NYC, and we couldn't have done it without the help of UberX.

With Hudson being so little, the subways are totally off-limits. We love how easy it is to get around thanks to Uber, and knowing that the driver is safe . It's great to be able to see exactly when the driver is pulling up, and the drivers contact info for accountability in case anything were to happen. It puts all of my 'new mom fears" to rest. 

I hated the idea of not having a car seat when entering a car in the city, and luckily Uber Family Profiles now allows us moms to select a car with a carseat inside. When booking your car, all you have to do is select the "car seat" option, and it's only a $10 surcharge. Enter the promo code CARSEATNYC10 to get your first car seat surcharge-free! If you have any questions, there's more info here

We grabbed an Uber in lower manhattan and hopped on over to Soho to pick up some holiday goodies at Madewell. The Madewell on Broadway is my favorite, and I was so excited to find some cute gifts for family (my mom is just as hooked on Madewell as I am). 

We stopped by Irving Farm coffee roasters for some latte's before heading home. Hudson napped while we fueled up on caffeine. It felt so good to bring my baby to one of my favorite places, NYC, and I am so glad that UberX made traveling to the city with a newborn so much less daunting - plus we tackled tons of holiday shopping!

Thanks to Uber for sponsoring this post!
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